H A V E Y O U E V E R T H O U G H T :
"How can he possibly love someone like me?"
Either there's something wrong with him and I'm going to have to leave to spare him all this suffering, or eventually, he is going to leave me. There is no in-between.
Sound familiar?
I was a really confident and independent person before I met my boyfriend.
But then vulnerability became a thing (what genius came up with that idea?). Let's just say it didn't mix well with my tough "I don't give a fuck" exterior. Everything came crashing down and all my insecurities were amplified.
Anger became my weapon of choice.
I thought that if I was really grumpy and angry and annoyed all the time, that would somehow protect me from getting hurt. The result? My feelings were in a constant state of being hurt for no good reason.
T H I S W A S T H E C Y C L E O F M Y L I F E :
This cycle was spinning so fast, I felt out of control. One thing always led to another and no matter how desperate I was to find a way out, nothing seemed to help.
It was like one of those figure-skater poles at the playground that spins faster the harder you hold on to it, and only slows down as you start leaning back.
I hit rock bottom a few times through the years...
I would throw temper tantrums about shirts sticking out of the drawer, send nasty texts because he'd had friends over and hadn't cleaned off the kitchen table before they arrived. I was acting like a monster, and I knew it. I just didn't know how to stop.
Then I learned these 5 things
H O W T O . . .
> Isolate the neutral facts in any situation
> Observe my brain and what it was doing
> Feel anything without reacting to it
> Control my actions
> Create any results I want in my life
These 5 things allowed me to stop the negative spiral at any point, no matter where in the process I noticed what was going on.
The control I had been missing returned to me.
Today, I am proud of the girlfriend I am (without faking any of it). I no longer feel like my boyfriend is putting up with me and I'm not putting up with him.
Whenever I notice myself slip back into that old cycle I know exactly what the problem is and how to fix it.
If I can learn these tools and change my life, so can you.
You just need to learn the 5 steps I learned and you'll no longer be out of control. No more feeling like a "toxic girlfriend" who is no fun to be around. You can be the girlfriend you've always wanted to be...
I can teach you how.
H A V E Y O U E V E R
T H O U G H T :
"How can he possibly love someone like me?"
Either there's something wrong with him and I'm going to have to leave to spare him all this suffering, or eventually, he is going to leave me. There is no in-between.
Sound familiar?
I was a really confident and independent person before I met my boyfriend.
But then vulnerability became a thing (what genius came up with that idea?). Let's just say it didn't mix well with my tough "I don't give a fuck" exterior. Everything came crashing down and all my insecurities were amplified.
Anger became my weapon of choice.
I thought that if I was really grumpy and angry and annoyed all the time, that would somehow protect me from getting hurt. The result? My feelings were in a constant state of being hurt for no good reason.
T H I S W A S T H E C Y C L E O F M Y L I F E :
This cycle was spinning so fast, I felt out of control. One thing always led to another and no matter how desperate I was to find a way out, nothing seemed to help.
It was like one of those figure-skater poles at the playground that spins faster the harder you hold on to it, and only slows down as you start leaning back.
I hit rock bottom a few times through the years...
I would throw temper tantrums about shirts sticking out of the drawer, send nasty texts because he'd had friends over and hadn't cleaned off the kitchen table before they arrived. I was acting like a monster, and I knew it. I just didn't know how to stop.
Then I learned these 5 things
H O W T O . . .
> Isolate the neutral facts in any situation
> Observe my brain and what it was doing
> Feel anything without reacting to it
> Control my actions
> Create any results I wanted in my life
These 5 things allowed me to stop the negative spiral at any point, no matter where in the process I noticed what was going on.
The control I had been missing returned to me.
Today, I am proud of the girlfriend I am (without faking any of it). I no longer feel like my boyfriend is putting up with me and I'm not putting up with him.
Whenever I notice myself slip back into that old cycle I know exactly what the problem is and how to fix it.
If I can learn these tools and change my life, so can you.
You just need to learn the 5 steps I learned and you'll no longer be out of control. No more feeling like a "toxic girlfriend" who is no fun to be around. You can be the girlfriend you've always wanted to be...
I can teach you how.
